An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones.
Proverbs 12:4 (ESV)
We’ve been married nearly 19 years. He truly is the love of my life, and Lord, you know, I do everything I can to be a good and loving Christian wife, all Proverbs 31. Friends and family have heard often heard me say, “absolutely, I’m an obedient wife….particularly when it suits my purposes.”. Today, obedience is easy.
(today’s blog is dedicated to my new friends Ashley from Wannabe Green http://wannabegreenash.blogspot.com/ as well as Fawn at the Happy Wives Club http://www.happywivesclub.com/. I hope people come discover you both.)
I was bragging to my husband this morning about a tip I discovered (on Ashly’s blog) for DIY laundry detergent. I was all excited and ready to make it, but, then my “spidey sense” tingled and I thought I better let him know. (Thank God for a spidey sense, female intuition, it’s all a Word from the Lord…call it what you will). I have a houseful of people with allergies and sensitivities, so I’m constantly seeking out opportunities to stay close to natural, save money, and still efficiently get things done well. I even listed the all natural, good old fashioned ingredients (two already in my pantry) to my dearly beloved; he wasn’t impressed. Huh? I was a little stunned…
Here I am, trying to do the right, thrifty, good for you, frugal (did I mention that?) thing. Are you ready? Dearly beloved says “baby, buy the Tide.” We have an HE washer, a lovely splurge bought a few years ago when the washer and dryer that came with the house died. We did our research. I looked for something compact, efficient, and inexpensive, but I am thankful, as is so often the case, for my husband, who is a “measure twice, cut once” kind of man. His guidance was to look for the most richly feature packed, efficient, compact set I could find that I liked (I chose a Kenmore set in blue, my favorite color), under the theory that we buy the best we can afford thereby avoiding the need to replace those units for a good 15-25 years.. Covering my bases, I’d even researched independently whether DIY detergent was HE washer friendly….there are special, low-sudsing detergents sold for HE washers….regular soap will ruin them, leading to expensive repairs (I had a friend live through that nightmare….that was a lesson I could learn by listening, not living).
Undeterred by my diligence, my darling husband said he’d pay for Tide, over a visit from the Kenmore man. Here’s the Happy Wives Club part…I smiled and said “okay., yes, dear.” I kissed him on the nose and he left for the office. Over. Done.
I was having a conversation with my BFF yesterday, about not taking things personally. As women (wives, mothers, friends, professionals, etc.) it must be the way we’re wired. I’m sure that there was a time in my life when I’d have felt the need to defend my position, not necessarily picking a fight, but certainly engaging in a dialogue supporting my position, explaining why I was right and why he should listen to me. Uh, why? To put it simply, DIY detergent (which I encourage you to check out at Ashley’s site and then report back me on, ‘cause I’m very curious) just wasn’t my hill to die on this morning. It wasn’t that important. I’m not suggesting that you make a habit of capitulating, but rather that you pick your battles, and learn (in the interest of a long, happy, and mutually satisfying marriage, right, Fawn?) that you don’t always have to be right. Or, and hold on to your seats here, because it’s about to get radical, you may actually be right. Is it more important to be right, this time, than to be at peace?
So, I’ve started my day as a Happy Wife. I’m in my happy place. (see, there it is...) It’s a good place to be, because as you probably know, your happy place keeps moving. It’s inevitable. So, I’m off to bask in my happy place, while I know where it is….and with that, I say “Thank You, Lord.” I have today’s reminder that God is good.
Today’s feast: DIY Tortilla Chips
Back Story~~I may not make detergent, but I am quite the DIYer, particularly in the kitchen.. It is less expensive, better for you, and not that much more of a time commitment than buying (this applies equally to chips, salsa, guacamole, chicken tenders, and spreadable butter, all of which I DIY.)
A package of corn tortillas (found fresh in the refrigerator section)
Corn or Canola Oil
A pot for frying (I prefer cast iron)
Heat oil to medium low. Cut tortillas into 8 wedges. Drop tortilla in small batches, moving with a spider or slotted spoon until golden and crisp. Remove to absorbent paper, being sure to salt lightly while they are hot.
Serve with homemade salsa (a recipe for another day…)
Find Ashley at http://wannabegreenash.blogspot.com/
Find Fawn at http://www.happywivesclub.com/